Sterotypes

We live in a world of stereotypes. Be it because of our differences or varying experiences, we sometimes tint our glasses with a shade of color that would make looking at the world more bearable (that sounds way too cynical) I mean comfortable. And as long as it doesn’t hurt any one, stereotypes I believe are justifiable and harmless.

I have a theory that I’ve come up with in watching the demographics patterned world around me in the last decade or so - The damsel looking, pitiable and sweet girls, the kind that look like they need some kind of rescuing appeal more to guys. They are the ones who’ll be snapped up first. Recently, I’ve come to believe that that theory may not be completely true. I figured, I owe it to all the men who have been ‘falsely’ accused by me to be ego-pricks and shallow minded in the past and myself, to at least adjust it.

Here is how it started, I was watching a Korean Drama series with one of my longest friend one night when I found out that the lead actor of that is the biggest name in Korea now. The thing is, I cannot figure out why?

He doesn’t look that handsome, in fact his rival looks manlier any time. In fact, he is ordinary looking- small sized, a little short and really fair. That description pretty much differs from our typical “ tall, dark and handsome” hunk ideal. But with a sparkle in his boyish slit eyes, and adorable sunshine dimpled smile, he is the biggest name in Korean pop scene today.

This is an interesting observation, why is he so popular? I would think that girls usually go for someone macho looking, someone who look like they can take care of them. I think however that the reverse is true, deep down in every person’s heart, there is a desire- they want to be needed. The pitiable look appeals because then it will seem like “I need to protect her or He needs my love”. It is as true for men as much as it is for the ladies. It is true not only for the opposite sex, but also for people of the same sex although outward appearance would most definitely apply more for the case of the former.

My previous theory included only the men, but come to think about it, this thing unisex. It is a human thing, it does not only isolate the male species. I suppose this can make all the men who feel that they have been unfairly accused feel better? I’m not sure, but have certainly done my best to correct my sterotype.