We deserve Happiness..

I believe that everyone deserves the happiness that all the world can contain. This world is really large, so it can definitely contain all the happiness that we all need to fill everyday of our lives. However, it amazes me how little people believe that of themselves today. It seems a strange statement but we see it all around us today..

We postpone our happiness, we overwork today to enjoy tomorrow, postpone that holiday, scrimp and save up for that wedding, forfeit precious time for earthly treasures. Please do not get me wrong; I am not in any way implying that work is bad, or that we should spend like there is no tomorrow. I totally believe in having a wholesome work attitude as well as saving for a comfortable retirement and a financially secured future. (I have a whole career to prove it *chuckle *)

However, I am proposing in this post, (that is all is it- a proposal, you are not required to agree with it, but however urged to consider it) that most of us don’t really believe that we deserve to be truly happy. I’m not saying we don’t want to be, fact is we want to be, we have spent the last few millenniums searching for the ‘secret to happiness’- We just don’t really believe that we deserve to be happy.

We have been bombarded by family, culture, society from childhood to adolescence and then adulthood to believe that suffering is noble, and happiness is something vague that belongs the mediocre. It has been subtle, we may talk like we know that happiness is truly important, but we always live what we believe. And along with the children that we’re supposed to teach and the young people we’ve been tasked to nurture, I look around to find a society where a overworked lifestyle is secretly admired, rest is looked upon with a little guilt, where you have to ‘earned’ your right to having a good time and busyness is only inches away from being crowned.

May I suggest that you consider the world- the wonder of creation, the beauty of individuality, and the exhilarating thrill of living life; from the moment you entered this world, you have a right- Happiness. You don’t have to earn it, you deserve i

Sterotypes

We live in a world of stereotypes. Be it because of our differences or varying experiences, we sometimes tint our glasses with a shade of color that would make looking at the world more bearable (that sounds way too cynical) I mean comfortable. And as long as it doesn’t hurt any one, stereotypes I believe are justifiable and harmless.

I have a theory that I’ve come up with in watching the demographics patterned world around me in the last decade or so - The damsel looking, pitiable and sweet girls, the kind that look like they need some kind of rescuing appeal more to guys. They are the ones who’ll be snapped up first. Recently, I’ve come to believe that that theory may not be completely true. I figured, I owe it to all the men who have been ‘falsely’ accused by me to be ego-pricks and shallow minded in the past and myself, to at least adjust it.

Here is how it started, I was watching a Korean Drama series with one of my longest friend one night when I found out that the lead actor of that is the biggest name in Korea now. The thing is, I cannot figure out why?

He doesn’t look that handsome, in fact his rival looks manlier any time. In fact, he is ordinary looking- small sized, a little short and really fair. That description pretty much differs from our typical “ tall, dark and handsome” hunk ideal. But with a sparkle in his boyish slit eyes, and adorable sunshine dimpled smile, he is the biggest name in Korean pop scene today.

This is an interesting observation, why is he so popular? I would think that girls usually go for someone macho looking, someone who look like they can take care of them. I think however that the reverse is true, deep down in every person’s heart, there is a desire- they want to be needed. The pitiable look appeals because then it will seem like “I need to protect her or He needs my love”. It is as true for men as much as it is for the ladies. It is true not only for the opposite sex, but also for people of the same sex although outward appearance would most definitely apply more for the case of the former.

My previous theory included only the men, but come to think about it, this thing unisex. It is a human thing, it does not only isolate the male species. I suppose this can make all the men who feel that they have been unfairly accused feel better? I’m not sure, but have certainly done my best to correct my sterotype.